Married love by kuan tao-sheng

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    Kuan Tao-sheng, Valentine

    KUAN TAO-SHENG’S POEM is a creation (and destruction) myth of sorts for married life: two separate beings are forged in the supernatural fires of love, and then there is the smashing and shattering of figurines, which will be recast to encompass not only oneself but their beloved. Something about that feels almost right — the feeling I carry with me to the grocery store, to work, that in her physical absence my wife is somehow still with me, more than just “in my thoughts” but in my experience of the world.


    I should note that an internet search produces a slightly less-than-romantic backstory. The poem was written in response to Kuan Tao-sheng’s husband contemplating taking on a mistress, as was in vogue amongst his peers. Thus the last two lines are less sentimental and more a reminder of ’til-death-do-us-part vows.


    — Brett Fletcher Lauer


    Kuan Tao-sheng, “Married Love”




    You and I


    Have so much love,


    That it


    Burns like a fire,


    In which we bake a lump of clay


    Molded into a figure of you


    And a figure of me.


    Then we take both of them,


    And break them into pieces,


    And mix the pieces with water,


    And mold again a figure of you,


    And a figure of me.


    I am in your clay.


    You are in my clay.


    In life we share a single qu

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    Married Love



    By Kuan Tao-Sheng
    Translated by Kenneth Rexroth



    You and I
    Have so much love
    That it
    Burns like a fire,
    In which we bake a lump of clay
    Molded into a figure of you
    And a figure of me.
    Then we take both of them,
    And break them into pieces,
    And mix the pieces with water,
    And mold again a figure of you,
    And a figure of me.
    I am in your clay.
    You are in my clay.
    In life we share a single quilt.
    In death we will share one bed.

    Kuan Tao-Sheng ( &#;) was a Chinese poet and painter who was active during the Yuan was born in Huzhou and was the wife of Zhao Mengfu. She was talented in calligraphy and painting ink bamboo and plum with delicate and elegant strokes. The calligraphy of herself, her husband and her son Zhao Yong were collected in a scroll by Emperor Ren, who commented that it was a rare thing for a husband, wife and son to all be talented in calligraphy.

    She inscribed poems on her paintings and used a style of poetry that was used rarely by women. In her poems she shows concern for her husband and children.

     One of the deepest human yearnings is connectedness, true connectedness. We have this deep longing to be irrevocably linked to another body, another soul. The deep desire for love, to be one with another on all levels, crosses all times an
  • married love by kuan tao-sheng

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    Married Love

    by Kuan Tao Sheng

    (translated by Kenneth Rexroth settle down Ling Chung)

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    Context

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